Pain. Shame. Embarrassment. You could have felt all of this. Churchgoing women who have abortions face internal turmoil because of the inconsistency between their beliefs and actions.
You might hear your Christian friends and relatives say in your head, “You knew better. How could you?” But they never actually said this to you, or maybe they did, and it’s painful.
Abortion, like all sin, leads to brokenness and the need for forgiveness and reconciliation. Yes, with the Lord, but also with yourself. You can’t punish yourself forever; you must move forward. Jesus already paid for your sin on the cross, and it’s time for you to experience His divine grace.
His Grace Surpasses Our Understanding
You may think, “How could God ever forgive me? I’m unlovable.” However, this isn’t the truth.
The truth is that Jesus died for you so that you could be forgiven. There’s no perfect performance or sinless life that could earn you a spot in Heaven. It’s impossible. Only Jesus’s blood can pay for your sins, so you don’t have to pay the price.
As the Bible says, “For all have sinned and fall short of the glory of God, and all are justified freely by his grace through the redemption that came by Christ Jesus.” (Romans 3:23-24)
We all need forgiveness. This doesn’t lessen the weight or seriousness of sin like your abortion, but it makes a way for you to heal and move forward. As Jesus said to the woman caught in adultery after saving her life, “Go now and leave your life of sin.” (John 8:11)
How does Jesus forgive us when we don’t deserve it? Our minds can’t fathom his love for us. Instead of beating yourself up over your decision, accept Jesus’ grace and commit to living differently. Once you do, you can begin to forgive yourself and heal.
But I Haven’t Told Anyone Yet
Embracing and showing the Lord’s grace is an area in which humans (even church members) can fall short. You may be worried about being cut off, shunned, or shamed. This isn’t the heart of Jesus, and it’s something you can’t control.
For your own mental health and to release your secret, we hope you will one day talk with a pastor, church group, or other Christians. We can recommend women’s Bible studies specific to healing spiritually and emotionally after an abortion.
As James 5:16 states, “Therefore confess your sins to each other and pray for each other so that you may be healed.” There is healing in confession and prayer among other believers.
If Christians choose to act contrary to Jesus’ grace, our prayer is that the Lord will guide you to a church that welcomes you with open arms and helps you find spiritual peace through Biblical truth.
I’m Just so Angry at Myself
It takes time to grieve, and you’re allowed to be angry, but you don’t want to stay here long-term.
Your story isn’t over because you chose abortion. Contact us today to discuss your situation and how to navigate the cycle of grief. Our trained advocates are available to listen, pray, and provide referrals to more professional help if necessary.
Connect with us today online or call or text us at (423) 266-8322. Healing is possible.