To be heartbroken is to be overcome by sorrow and disappointment. Your feelings of heartbreak are valid whether you chose to have an abortion or you experienced a miscarriage. Both are painful and instill a sense of guilt, anguish, and despair.
You have every right to feel heartbroken. The team at Choices is here to help you. At Choices, you will be seen, heard, and comforted. We offer a safe, compassionate space where you can express your sorrow and begin to heal. Please connect with us. Call or text us at 423-266-8322, or fill out our online contact form.
Time Does Not Heal All Wounds
In an awkward response to your pain, friends or family members may say, “Time heals all wounds. Just give it time.” That statement can feel condescending when you’re hurting so deeply. Time does not heal. Time passes.
That phrase puts you on a time clock. How much time do you get? When does time begin and end? What if I’m not healed by the time the alarm rings? No, there is no set time for your healing to be complete, and the passage of time doesn’t heal the deepest pain.
Your story is unique, and so is your healing. No matter your experience, your grief is real, and your emotions are valid.
Grief Requires Support
The heaviness of grief can cause you to feel weighed down, immobilized, and stuck in a downward spiral. But with proper support, you can learn to move forward while remembering the loss.
At Choices, our team is prepared to support you in a personal, unique way. Our caregivers listen carefully and provide the following support:
- Confidential Conversations and Prayer. Sometimes you need a neutral third party to hear your story and simply listen. Family and friends feel the need to “fix” the problem, provide answers, and, often, offer a quick solution. We understand the depth of the pain you’re feeling, and we’ll help you talk through it.
Whether you believe in God or not, prayer can comfort. It turns your sadness over to a higher power. God understands your loss. - Special Care Packages. A thoughtful self-care package brings comfort to the weariness of grief. It’s vital to take care of yourself physically and emotionally.
- Support Groups and One-on-One Sessions. When you are ready to begin your deeper healing journey, our team can help you find the right support group or counselor.
For those struggling with loss because of an abortion, we offer in-person or online support groups. Trained facilitators walk you through your healing journey.
Other Ways to Express Grief and Continue Healing
Your pain needs an outlet. You need to be able to process the pain. Here are a few suggestions:
- Exercise. Evidence suggests that exercise can help you find freedom from the pain of loss. Physical activities like running, walking, or dancing can help relieve stress.
- Art as Therapy. Art therapy provides an outlet for self-expression and reflection. Whether you paint, color in a coloring book, or create a collage, you can express your pain outwardly rather than holding it in.
- Journaling. Keeping a journal or diary provides an opportunity to express your anger, confusion, and sadness. Sometimes, when you put your thoughts down on paper, they become more real.
- Hobbies. Is there something you love to do or have always wanted to do? Now is the time. Whether it’s gardening, cooking, playing music, or sewing, a hobby helps provide a measure of normalcy to your life.
- Connecting With Others. Sharing your story with others who have had similar experiences reminds you that you are not alone in your grief. You can connect with our support group members, or we can put you in touch with other groups.
Consider Honoring Your Child
Choices sponsors the National Memorial for the Unborn, providing opportunities for you to honor your unborn child. You can visit the memorial, add a nameplate or brick paver, and receive healing resources. Participation can provide the comfort and closure you’re looking for. Contact us to learn more.
We’re Here to Help You
Perhaps you don’t know where to begin, or you’re looking for a different way to express your grief. We are here for you. Help is just a phone call or text away at (423) 266-8322, or you can fill out our online contact form.
Healing after loss begins at Choices. Please let us know how we can help you today.