The emotional pain of a miscarriage is excruciating, especially if you were trying to conceive. It can also trigger memories of former losses, whether an abortion or another miscarriage.
Your grief may have quickly shifted to self-blame and guilt as you remember choosing to end former pregnancies. These feelings are painful. You may even be punishing yourself.
Rest assured, you never intended to miscarry, and support is available. Our caring team members are here to talk with you and help you process your pain. Connect with us today.
Acknowledge Your Abortion Grief
Have you fully grieved your abortions? It’s possible to repress these losses for a long time, but then the feelings resurface once you experience problems conceiving or carrying future pregnancies.
It takes time to get closure after an abortion. You may think about it your whole life, but it doesn’t have to haunt you. Start by grieving, with the goal of eventually forgiving yourself and anyone else who played a role in your abortions. It can take time, but any amount of progress moves you forward.
Did Abortion Cause Your Miscarriage?
Abortion complications can lead to fertility problems, such as scar tissue building on the wall of the uterus (Asherman’s syndrome). If you had issues such as infection after abortion or previous surgical abortions, you may consider visiting an OB-GYN for an evaluation.
Additionally, if you experienced a pregnancy loss beyond 12 weeks and you have a negative blood type (A-, B-, O-, or AB-), you could have developed Rh sensitization when carrying infants with a positive blood type. Afterward, you could struggle to carry babies with positive blood types in the future. This is a rare condition, but you can also get tested for it.
Remember to always talk with your doctor after a miscarriage to ensure you are getting the care you need, such as a RhoGAM shot if you have a negative blood type.
However, with these complications aside, the most common cause of a miscarriage is gene or chromosome abnormalities, with half or two-thirds of early miscarriages being due to an extra or missing chromosome. This has nothing to do with former abortions, and you don’t have control over it. It’s usually genetic or caused by random errors.
Miscarriages Are Not Your Fault
It’s common for women, even those who haven’t had an abortion, to blame themselves after a miscarriage. Even if you experienced a complication after an abortion that led to difficulties becoming pregnant, remember that miscarriage is never intentional.
We’re sorry for the pain you’re going through, and we want to help. Contact us today. Even if you’re not in Chattanooga, we’d love to have a conversation with you.