You know how it is. You meet an acquaintance out in public, and they casually ask how you’re doing. The usual response is “Okay,” and you move on.
“Being okay” can mean different things to different people. For some, “being okay” means completely erasing the memory of the painful choices you make. You say to yourself, “Well, I’m just going to forget that ever happened.” Not everyone wants to face the pain.
“So here I am. I’m having an abortion. I know it’s the safest choice for me and my family. But I’m also drowning in guilt, self-loathing, and grief. I just… need to hear from someone that I’m not a horrible person.” An Anonymous Reddit User
For others, remembering the choice and finding healing is the only way to “be okay.” What does ”being okay” mean to you? Do you want to move on and forget, or are you seeking a deeper healing?
Is It Okay to Not Be Okay?
Social media trains us to present the very best of ourselves, whether truthful or not. We often avoid negative emotions and desperately want to appear as though we have it all together.
However, avoiding negative feelings and the pain we feel leads to a downward spiral. An article in Psychology Today suggests the following results for long-term emotional avoidance:
- A greater likelihood of anxiety and depression
- Poorer work performance
- Lower quality of life
- Increased rumination
- Problematic behaviors such as substance abuse
The article goes on to say, “Well-being is built upon giving yourself permission to acknowledge and accept all emotions–even the hard ones.” Are you ready to acknowledge and accept the pain you feel because of your abortion?
Steps Toward Healing
There are several steps you can take to improve your well-being. Choices can help you. Because each abortion experience is unique, we provide different forms of support. However, all of our support is completely free to you.
Here are some of the steps you can take through Choices:
- Receive guidance and support through an in-person or online support group or one-on-one visits with a counselor.
- Attend our weekly anonymous Zoom Group every Sunday at 6 pm. You can share or simply listen to others. Topics include “The circumstances that led to your abortion(s),” “The effect on work, social interactions, or faith community involvement,” and “Forgiving yourself and forgiving others involved.”
Contact us to find out how to join. - Receive medical support and non-emergency follow-ups.
- Receive referrals for National Support Network Connections.
- Speak with our Reproductive Loss Coordinator to find out how you can honor your baby through the National Memorial for the Unborn.
Psychology Today also offers some practical healing tips:
- Exercise. It is known to regulate your mood, appetite, and sleep, and ward off depression.
- Be kind to yourself. Self-care is vital. Eat healthy foods, get the right amount of sleep, learn a new hobby, and moderate your alcohol and caffeine intake.
- Become an “optimistic realist.” Accept your situation, but know that help is available and you can find healing.
- Build strong, safe relationships with people who will not judge you but will support you.
Choices Is Here for You
Our team is committed to your emotional, physical, and spiritual well-being. You matter to us. If you are struggling with your abortion decision, it is possible to “be okay” again.
At Choices, you will not be judged or lectured. We’ll connect you with long-term post-abortion resources and help you receive the individual care you need.
Make an appointment by contacting us online, or by calling or texting us at (423) 266-8322. We’re ready to take the healing journey with you.
All abortion information sourced in this blog is based on accurate information at the time of writing.
Choices does not perform or refer for abortion.